What is Optimized Dating?

Simply put, we are an international dating and relationship advice community oriented towards nerdy people with an analytical mindset. We came together to exchange best practices that helped us obtain a happy romantic live and to support other people in their personal romantic journey. Join us on Discord!

Q: Are you people PUA/redpill/incels?

A: We are not affiliated with any existing dating communities. We strongly condemn misogyny and support gender equality. The only community we are linked with is rationalist community on the Discord server for Astral Codex Ten blog - all the mods and the core userbase come from there.

Q: Where do I start?

Read the Optimized Dating FAQ post, then join the server if you need further advice.

Publish with us

If you have an insight worth sharing, an interesting dataset, or simply a dating tip that worked for you, we are interested to publish it here. Contact us and we will set you up as an author.

About our editors

Loweren is a 28-year old Russian with a PhD in Biology. He enjoys casual dating via apps and preaches the importance of good photos. In his free time he conducts lewd photoshoots at See Elegance.