Archive - Optimized Dating

Confused Attractiveness

What do we even measure with a 1–10 scale?

Jun 23, 2023 •

February 2022

Dating profile review thread (subscriber-only)

Post profile, get feedback, stay private.

Feb 13, 2022 •

[draft] Arson, Murder, and Handholding

Feb 13, 2022 •

January 2022

2021 Optimized Dating survey results

Jan 3, 2022 •

December 2021

Overfiltering your dating pool

There’s a common pattern I see in some men who ask for dating advice.

Dec 27, 2021 •

Optimized Dating FAQ

What you need to know before installing a dating app

Dec 16, 2021 •

November 2021

Dating Minefield vs. Dating Playground

Imagine you want to improve your performance. You're offered a choice between two courses. Which one would you pick?

Nov 29, 2021 •

How to get the most out of a dating photographer

So you've decided to start online dating, and the only pictures of yourself on your phone are of you holding a dead fish.

Nov 29, 2021 •

It's not you, it's your photos

Dating apps keep getting blame for reducing complex individuals to their appearance. The fundamental mistake here is believing your photo is a faithful…

Nov 29, 2021 •

Dating by induction

When I was just starting my attempts at dating in my twenties, I encountered an unexpected obstacle: I had no idea what dates are and how they work

Nov 29, 2021 •

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